I gave up playing tennis with him. But now he has begun university and I trust him with everything but I keep thinking of what I did. The way I see things, there are innocent kisses, which occur when a person had too much to drink, and then there are guilty kisses, which are precipitated by getting drunk. You can confess to your significant other and accept the consequences, knowing that you might hurt your partner by confessing. I don't know why I need that so much, but I do. Later, I spoke to my fianc and he told me he loved me and was sorry. She said this is how it starts. I think my husband could maybe forgive the kiss, but the doubt would be there, he would wonder if this could happen again, and he would be so hurt. ;-) (Awlthough, dang naace trah, they-yer, at tryin-a git' me ter disclows mah gendah. And yes I do still believe either directly or indirectly, mouth to mouth, tongue swapping French kissing caressing lead to sex. VerticalScope Inc., 111 Peter Street, Suite 600, Toronto, Ontario, M5V 2H1, Canada. Some song came on and it was a soppy song and we were both singing along. I had three reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2006): A in my opinion I don't see why you would feel guilty you did nothing . If you are carrying so much guilt, it's generally a sign that you care a lot about someone and you are really sorry for what you have done- perhaps he realises this. Not just, here's your marriage license good luck. 5. True mistakes get owned and rectified. HIKARI, you can't take up an obsolete thread as your own, no matter any similarities, so if you want feedback and advice it's best to start a new one (and copy and paste that post into it as your opening post), okay? I'll still cross over with him at times, but it will be minimal. I was devastated. You have been dating this guy for only two months and it's not serious yet. Would they be as lenient? In Jung's theory, the anima makes up the totality of the unconscious feminine psychological qualities that a man possesses and the animus the masculine ones possessed by a woman. Here are the frightening ways to know that he gave another girl a kiss ; 1. Because just as everyone else is saying, if you did the RIGHT thing, you shouldn't feel guilty. I agree with you about her being straight forward and telling her husband about the kiss and not holding back any secrets. I feel like my husband deserves so much better, but can't tell him because the guy isn't some stranger, he's a person I see 5 days a week, and I know if tables were turned and I was in my husbands position I would wonder what interactions were happening between the two in work everyday. I had text my husband so he knew where I was and that was ok. Is Kissing Someone When Drunk Cheating? | Relationship Talk I wasn't there but news travelled fast and I knew about it through friends by the next morning. It was just a kiss. instead of: Just trying to keep the pot stirred,the fire burning. but all of a sudden I feel REALLY angry. Once my tennis coach misread me, came into my house, and gave a peck on my cheeks, in India, kissing is not a social gesture. Live with the soul crushing guilt you earned, or lose your BF. ;-)). Your boyfriend may love you so much that he believes you won't repeat the cheating ever again. Have another little thinkipoos (with or without a little drinkipoos). Press J to jump to the feed. But, I did find out that I was attracted to my piano teacher. Whoops. I can't get into his FB directly but I accessed his hotmail and read the notification. Biological ones. She had gone to bed. The way it happened-not so good! We lived in a small town at the time, and it felt like avoiding this girl was nearly impossible. No matter how much we insist that "it's all good, bro, we're like, totally homies!", we don't mean it, not really. It was such a weird experience. Just my thoughts having been a victim of cheating. Then (my name) I NEED SEX! if you believe you have to tell him exactly as you did here , if your friends you were with are also his say he can ask them . I mean if a person can't rely on their own strength of character and self-discipline to stop them from crossing that line, they obviously NEED an outside deterrent. :-)), SOULMATE: Meant as in the universe of sisterhood (wrongly) To award Biggest B*lls on the Block Award -comment never was to imply same race- so on behalf of the Academy I accept :), (Good stuff. Social media, the Internet, texting and so on. I love your stories, Foxie. If you kissed someone while you were drunk then perhaps you are worried about doing it again. You don't have control over these things. I thought I had lost him and then bumped into him further down the street. But I don't see the need to borrow trouble by telling your boyfriend if you have learned your lesson and know you will never do something like that again. Maybe you didnt deliberately set out to kiss him or her, but you feel guilty about the kiss because you realize you always wanted to kiss that person, but were afraid to kiss because you harbored hidden feelings for that person. They say don't tell the wife or husband about the infidelity, because it would cause more hurt. That was crazy' and other awkward things. When you feel guilty for hurting someone you love, holding in those feelings makes it worse. stop any contact (outside of work) immediately. This was a relationship BTW not a marriage. I hadn't been out drinking for about 3 months beforehand, so think the excitement of the night, constant glasses prosecco and wine, and the buzz of just being all dolled up all mixed together to see me very giddy and tipsy. [3] you couldn't extend to him the same courtesy he'd already extended to *you* (i.e. It's wonderful that you even wanted to kiss someone! Oh there really isn't any disagreement actually. I was drunk, I kissed another guy and I'm so ashamed. I really love my We were chatting when we realised the other woman was snoring. ;-D. Ahhhh you're back! On which note - "Marriage is about trust not tryst": I like that saying. I dont want him to be thinking that I am a cheat. You can't fake that . This post is probably the most intelligent and insightful posts Ive seen on this site. I wouldn't be able to sleep at night. ;-) Again - your choice. A number of years ago, while I was still married to my late husband, I befriended a guy who was an ace pianist. If he is nervous at you looking at his messages and also refuses to tell you who she is, he is hiding quite alot. PostedNovember 9, 2014 Yes, that's what I was going to advise - that you two continue any discussion on LG's own thread. Helping ppl have the sex life they truly want thru writing & education. male Feel free to start your own thread if you finally find you've a need to.). But the guilt is killing me. Most people would never confess that's the reality. Scopes: Yes, the kids are the real victims. I agree with Vale that the best thing you can do is talk to Cintia about what happened and tell her that seeing her kissing Mercy upset you. If you both agreed not to see anyone else, how is that not exclusive? Sentiment accepted, though. I was dumped.so why do *I* feel guilty? Mattia Insolia, Cieli in fiamme (Mondadori) con Valentina Berengo I could tell that he had a thing for you. 99% of us in this situation would do exactly as SUSIEQDD posted. But I do have to state it or I'm failing to do this role properly as well as my innate compulsion to be unwaveringly socially and morally responsible - meaning, if you don't want to respond, don't. In a way you are trading his peace of mind for yours, do you really think that you will accomplish anything by doing that? "He's a great kisser" what she said to me. I know, I need to start a thread. He cared less what families they belonged to if they worked in the same positions, they had the same contract rules to follow. I felt a mixture of excitement and flattery and nerves. My husband went ballistic and said, I just knew something like this was going to happen. I dont know which country u belong from but where i live I don't think men here like us to talk to strangers , men are our protectors and the bread earners, men on the whole are possessive of their females all around the world specially in case like yours if you have been too much loyal to each other,however if we assumed both of u to be flirt or too outgoing-means in case of slping wid ppl etc then u could share an event like a normal secretbut remember this is not merely a secret its equal to CONFESSING A CRIME/yes disloyality is a crime another man can not touch u after u r marryd to sombdy-if i take myself into account i can never allow any guy to touch me its only my hubbys right to see and love me even he says my loyalty is his most precious asset:) so if u do confess then he forgives or not for ur crime is his decision- I would recommend you should avoid telling him n you should change your job or timings as soon as possible because he that boy may try to exploit the situation tell your hubby though it has little chance but still you should be careful. Your significant other might get very angry about this, but I believe it depends more on whom you kissed rather than on the fact that you kissed someone else. This one by far has lasted the longest. I wanted to go further with him, but I didnt nor did he push for anything more. :), Ah cawlled *you* 'sistah', dun't mean Ah iz wurn too, 'kayyy, shugah? One day, he came over with a bottle of whisky and he had already been drinking. i asked him how he'd feel if i went and made out with another man in front of him. With or without the same seniority. Shes Colombian and very fiery. He left and went to the lake. I'm 44 years old and I've been dating a 24 year old for 5 months. Confide in someone you trust. Not Opening Up To You Anymore If he's like meI can forgive the actbut not the lying. I myself have had issues in the past months but I won't elaborate. Yesterday night we went out to drink. find me on and follow me on. My wife wants to leave because of this. My opinion, fwiw, is that what you did was not that bad. You cheated. NO don't actually make it easy for him to have ANY KIND OF RELATIONSHIP with this woman!!!! If you kissed a stranger while you were drunk, dont worry about it. Being married is something that can be quite complicated at times. 4 days ago. I think its interesting that you put in the innocent and the guilty kiss. Tell boyfriend another guy tried to kiss me? - GirlsAskGuys But living a lie would be so much worse. reader, Angel-lee+, writes (25 October 2005): A